Failure

I hear this word quite often, particularly in the corporate world it seems trendy to name one’s „failures“ and learn from them. 

I don’t agree at all. Please don’t use this word. It simply doesn’t exists. It’s used to blame people (or oneself!), that’s all. There is no such thing as failure. Maybe you did something not the way expected, you forgot something, interpreted in a different way or didn’t meet a timeline. And this is what it is. There are reasons for it, you didn’t „fail“. 

Same for relationships. Did I do or say anything inappropriate? Yes. Did I fail? No!

And on the mat? There’s no failure in your yoga practice either. You can’t do a posture although you’re working on it for a long time? So it is. No failure, you’re just not there yet. You fell off your headstand while demonstrating it? So you fell, no failure. Honestly, this is an example of rather the contrary. Your student can live experience that there’s no issue to fall, you can explain about it and tell why you fell that moment.

Be true to yourself and name things as they are, instead of putting a destructive label on them.

Failure is such a harsh word, even if you only tell it to yourself, your entire body, each and every cell is listening. Your whole body mind filled up with the strong negative energy of this simple word. 

Treat yourself and your body properly, also with the words you choose. „Failure“ is a word that should leave you. Once and forever. 

Failure

„Behind every success, there’s a string of failures.“

We hear this quite often. In life, in a yoga classes. I don’t agree. Failure doesn’t exist. If you want to believe in failure, of course you’ll fail. Better you don’t let that crap manifest in your mind.

When I can’t manage to do an asana, am I failing? No, I’m learning. I do it again and again. Learning the technique, and much more important, opening my body and my mind, learning to feel the posture. Challenging myself, but not pushing too hard. Accepting that it takes time and enjoying even the baby steps. It’s a huge learning process, for the body and don’t underestimate the mind! Lot’s of believes prevent my body to be soft and let it simple happen.

Believing in failure works hand in hand with judging. Doubts and thoughts such as, I can’t do that, I’m not good enough, I’m too old, too fat, too weak, will make any progress impossible.

Stop limiting yourself. Accept your limitations and go from there. Each day is different, a posture that works yesterday, seem inaccessible today. That’s life! We are humans, not machines.

Stop focussing on images in social media, showing us what we SHOULD be able to do or how we should look. Crab.

Live YOUR life. In YOUR pace. Feel yourself, listen to your body. Be nice to yourself!

It’s all about love and love doesn’t know failure. It’s all part of the game.