The beauty of Aging

Many of us experience some changes around the age of 50. I’m not talking about any kind of midlife crisis or menopause for women, while this might also be a trigger to rethink where we are in life. No matter the reason, it seems to be the time to reinvent oneself.

A friend of mine, who turns 50 this year, takes this as an option to rethink what he wants his life to be and he takes the necessary changes. Those changes can be quite big things; it might even come to a real turn over.

I heard from another friend who had a rigorous 6 days a week Ashtanga practice, that with her menopause starting, she allowed herself to be less strict and her yoga practice turned to be more calm, slow and gentle, always listening to what her body needs that day.

This time might be an entry point into a new phase of life, with new options, new strength, and the courage to change and eventually start something new. It might concern the job, the place we live, relationships, our practice or the entire life set-up; no matter what direction we’re aiming to go, if you feel called, do it. Even if aging shows us at this stage the first indications that not only the outer appearance is transforming, but also the body complains more. And hey, where is that fear coming from all of a sudden?

Many yogis start taking it easier at that point, while for me the full story started then. At the age of 49 I did my first teacher training and instead of getting calmer, my yoga journey took off and was at its best around 52. I’m 54 now and my body talks to me loud and clear, mostly not what I want to hear and I learned that it’s not always about doing the full Ashtanga series each day, it’s about showing up. Being on the mat every day, doing what I can. Luckily, my body is still improving, still learning, adapting, bending more, even if progress takes much longer. My practice teaches me to be patient, the most difficult thing to learn for me! To accept, that it’s totally fine where I am on my journey and not just that, it is phenomenal how my body and mind changed over the past few years.

We move on, the three of us, together, body and mind and soul. We keep on changing, improving, learning and the very new thing: we take it easy.

Get back on track

I lost myself a bit over the last weeks, well even months. Under the flag of „common, let’s enjoy life“, I finally lost the connection to myself, which was so hard to build up. The good news, I know what I have to do. The difficult thing is, not to get distracted. But just do it.

My theme is all about ahimsa. This is one of the yamas (ethical precepts), part of the yoga sutras. Ahimsa translates into non violence — violence in all aspects, physical and also mental violence, such as words or thoughts.

How you treat others and yourself, what you say and think of others and yourself. This is where everything has to start, within ourselves. Be kind to the people around you. Be kind to yourself.

Non harming is the basis of every practice and it all boils down to the relationship with yourself. Repeat this: it’s about the relationship with yourself.

On the mat, it means to be kind to your body. To not push yourself into postures that you are not ready for, as you may cause injury.

Off the mat it’s about speech, food, clothing, how you treat others, the environment, yourself. Living healthy. You decide.

I decided to get back on track, back to a life of practicing ahimsa. Particularly when it comes to myself. And you know what? I know it will feel amazing, even if it needs discipline to get back. 

I’m in, how about you?

Time doesn’t exist

A pic just reminded me of an experience 5 years ago. But it wasn‘t just about a beautiful memory, it made me think of everything that happend the last 5 years. All that happened to me, with me, through me.

BOOM.

5 years feel like a lifetime. 5 years feel like a single moment. What is time? We only have the present moment, this is our reality. How we feel about time tells us a lot about time as such. It was yesterday. It was 5 years ago. Years packed with actions that would fit an entire life. Anyhow, it’s the same. Time to set us free from time, it just doesn’t matter.

I’m so grateful for this experience somewhen in my life, as it changed everything. I found my path. Hallelujah.

Failure

„Behind every success, there’s a string of failures.“

We hear this quite often. In life, in a yoga classes. I don’t agree. Failure doesn’t exist. If you want to believe in failure, of course you’ll fail. Better you don’t let that crap manifest in your mind.

When I can’t manage to do an asana, am I failing? No, I’m learning. I do it again and again. Learning the technique, and much more important, opening my body and my mind, learning to feel the posture. Challenging myself, but not pushing too hard. Accepting that it takes time and enjoying even the baby steps. It’s a huge learning process, for the body and don’t underestimate the mind! Lot’s of believes prevent my body to be soft and let it simple happen.

Believing in failure works hand in hand with judging. Doubts and thoughts such as, I can’t do that, I’m not good enough, I’m too old, too fat, too weak, will make any progress impossible.

Stop limiting yourself. Accept your limitations and go from there. Each day is different, a posture that works yesterday, seem inaccessible today. That’s life! We are humans, not machines.

Stop focussing on images in social media, showing us what we SHOULD be able to do or how we should look. Crab.

Live YOUR life. In YOUR pace. Feel yourself, listen to your body. Be nice to yourself!

It’s all about love and love doesn’t know failure. It’s all part of the game.